Lucky for you she’s also asking you a second question, which is “Do you think I’m beautiful? Even if you’re not crazy about her new look (or new outfit or whatever she’s modeling), you can praise her overall appearance, which is the real issue anyway.
Hearing these words, you may think you’re in trouble.
Unfortunately, talking doesn’t release oxytocin for men, so you’re not having the same bonding experience during your “little talk.” But understanding what’s happening in the brain chemistry and emotions of your woman may help you better interpret her request and respond appropriately.
If you do love her, these words may feel like a low blow, indicating failure on your part to communicate your true feelings.
But here’s what’s really happening: There’s a good chance that your woman knows that you love her and simply wants the brain-chemical rush of hearing the words. Having a conversation with you about what you love about her or your relationship releases “feel good” chemicals in her brain. It’s about giving your woman the gift of a small brain-chemical rush that makes her fall more in love with you as a result. And she is, if the words are accompanied by eye contact, physical touch, and a smile.
This question isn’t just another thinly veiled attempt to get you there as soon as possible.
Contrary to popular belief, most men are deeply interested in pleasing their women—and legitimately want to take the guesswork out of knowing what she wants from him.
He cares about your fulfillment and is willing to work at it to get it right.But let’s be honest: If a man asks this of his woman, it’s likely he’s also thinking, “I’m hoping you will ask me that too.” One of the differences between men and women shows up in how we communicate with each other.Here are five phrases women use that seem puzzling to the men in their lives, along with an explanation of what she probably REALLY means.You might think she wants to know if it's a good color or not.And she does, but if the truth is unflattering, she wants to hear it from one of her girlfriends, not from you.Unfortunately, it’s likely that none of her girlfriends are around when she’s posing that question to you, so what to do?