I had to let God mend my brokenness and fill me back up, make me whole. It was not until I began to stop looking for men for satisfaction and contentment.
As I drew closer to my boyfriend, I pulled further away from God and fell deeper into sin.
Even though this wasn’t necessarily a case of being “un-equally yoked”, this was a case of two Christians putting God on the back burner for each other.
It was like our relationship was first and God came second when it should have been the other way around!
That means, my soul was spiritually intertwined with someone.
I had a very close relationship with that person for about 5 years and we went through the phases: “friends”, “best friends”, “dating”, and even “engagement”.
I did not have to have sex to form my soul tie but it came from my overly close an co-dependent relationship with someone.
I idolized my relationship with that person and put it above my relationship with God.
The sin that came from my soul tie included things like choosing not to devote time to God in the morning because I’d rather please my spouse in the relationship and stay up on the phone until in the morning.
And instead of presenting my body as a living sacrifice unto God, I compromised and chose to feed the sexual desires that came from my soul-tied relationship.
I often used the excuse, “it’s okay we will be married soon” instead of committing myself to Jesus and finding my contentment in Him! At the time I didn’t know it, but God was in control all along. When I finally became aware of my sin and what the nature of my relationship had been, I took some practical steps to finalize the spiritual work that God was doing in my soul. These steps included separating myself from that person as well as from any other things that I lived with that represented that person in any way. If the soul tie is “really deep” like mine was, you have to take into consideration the presence of mutual friends and acquaintances as well. I realized that just staying away from that person and trying to avoid things that hold sentimental value, does not fully close the gap to where the tie was broken.
Unless you find something to fill that brokenness and void, you will be running right back to your soul tie, just like I did, too many times!