This seems to be a fairly common phenomenon -- and a tremendously frustrating one. Basically, our self-concept encompasses all our beliefs and judgments about ourselves.
This reminds me of a question one of my students once asked me: "Do you believe that both parties of a relationship must first have self-love in order to function healthily without attachment and dependency? But you didn't come here for the short answer, so here's the long answer. The self-concept attempts to satisfy two motives simultaneously: self-enhancement and self-consistency.
Generally, people like things that give them self-enhancement (e.g. However, if you don't like yourself, then the self-enhancement runs into the self-consistency requirement (e.g.
And when one gets fertilized, she's out of commission for a few years.
Instead of maybe falling love with you in a couple of months, she'll positively fall hard for you in a couple of weeks.
Have you ever had a dating situation that started out great but then went downhill rapidly when things got more serious?
If you understand the structure of human emotions, it becomes to engineer them. Just because you can build something doesn't mean it's going to be good or evil. She'll be wondering why you won't leave her the heck alone.
You can build a hospital, or you can build a torture chamber. For a guy to fall in love, it takes a little longer. On the other hand, if you send her short, mysterious texts every couple days or so, she won't be able to help thinking about you. She'll text you back, asking you what you meant, but never, ever answer it.
Both would use the same tools and engineering techniques. Remember, your job is to get her thinking of you, not to spark a conversation. Then she gets a mysterious text from you, which pretty much forces her to think about you.
Keep that in mind when putting the tips in this article to use. Naturally, this is best used in tangent when your dating her once or twice a week. Then she sees you again, (where you definitely DO NOT explain your texts) where she again has a good time.
They are very powerful, and based on the incredibly irresistible subconscious power of hypnosis. Then she gets another text from you, increasing her tendency to think about you, which will increase her interest.
This means she's got to be thinking about you, on her own, when you're not around. If you text her every five seconds asking if she still likes you, she'll be thinking about you all right, but not in the way you want her to.