Think playing mind games with men smacks of unscrupulous femme fatale-style manipulation? The game plan: No matter how badly you want to dial his digits or reply to his e-mails, you're better off curbing your enthusiasm when you're first dating. "Games are the way we keep romance alive," says Helen Fisher, Ph D, author of What makes these courtship contact sports so appealing is that there are no losers and they pave the way to building a relationship that's humming with excitement. Play these five games with him and we promise you'll score.Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of .
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Jenny, 24, was able to pique her man's interest by playfully dodging his questions.
"Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.
Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.
"Andrew looks like Brad Pitt's little brother, and I knew he was used to women being at his beck and call," she says. But I'm all ears now.' He felt lucky to have caught up with me."How everybody wins: Men, says Argov, equate longing with love.
To level the playing field, she avoided giving him her cell-phone number so he didn't have access to her anytime, anyplace. By taking your time calling him back, you become a catch, not a convenience.When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!Early-stage TMI is a major turn-off for most males."Men feel disoriented when you disclose intimate details too soon," says Kreidman."You think you're bonding, but he thinks you're an open book to everyone." What you censor — about your exes, family, friends, even your schedule — can be more powerful than what you reveal.So talk about your job and interests but stay mum about the juicier details.