couple of seconds into my first three-minute speed “date,” Bachelor No.1 blurts out, “I thought you were supposed to be black?
Their mission is to get people together who wouldn’t normally think about dating outside of their own races or cultures.
There are a ton of online options when it comes to meeting potential love interests—OKCupid, Match, Meetups—but co-owner Shanelle Grimes says Charlotte needs a more targeted take on dating.
“We just really wanted it to be specific,” she says.
“A lot of speed dating is too general.” As of February, they had two other planned events, one for lesbians and one for urban professionals.
I just saw the website event listing for interracial speed dating. I didn’t know this event targeted white men seeking black women, of which I am neither. The women spoke to a different man every three minutes, and in that short time, had to classify each potential mate as “yes,” “no,” or “maybe.” The second guy I met looked familiar. In fact, several of the guys I met appeared to be game-time recruits.
But I don’t discriminate based on race or creed—well, unless you like the band Creed—so I decided to pay the to check it out. (“We did have about three participants that didn’t show,” Grimes admitted later.
When I walked into World of Beer that night, people were hanging out, watching basketball. I scanned the room to find a small check-in table in the back, where a couple of bubbly women greeted me. ” they asked, instructing me to write my name and email address on a sheet of paper. “I used my powers of persuasion to get one of the gents at the bar to participate.”) The men who did show up appeared to be either in their 20s or 40s.
For their first event, the company’s founders decided to focus on black women who want to date men of other races.
They papered the town with fliers seeking “non-African American men who love and want to date African American women.” “Often black women don’t seek men outside of their race, because they assume that those men aren’t attracted to them,” Grimes says.
“I also think that men of different races feel the same way—they assume that black women don’t desire them.
So you have these two groups of people who are truly open but there is somewhat of a communication breakdown that is keeping them apart.” Speaking of communication breakdown: I didn’t see those fliers. The organizers corralled the participants into a backroom, where the guys sat at high-top tables, waiting to be approached. As a last-minute addition, I suspected he didn’t pay .