Writing an online dating profile comes with easy and hard steps. This may seem obvious, but a recent study posted on e Harmony, which analyzed 12,000 online dating profiles, confirmed that both men and women chose “funny” as a characteristic they are looking for in a partner, ranking it sixth out of a list of 10 enticing words. Got some Pablo Neruda quotes you’ve been keeping on your intentions board? That same e Harmony study also revealed that you should describe the kind of person you are, but only using certain “attractive” words.Easy might include filling out your height, while hard might include coming up with a good dating profile headline. If you can be funny, it’s universally acknowledged as a good idea. Looks like women should use words like sweet, optimistic, and thoughtful, while men should use words like passionate, spontaneous, and perceptive. A study of 1.2 million profiles by Plenty of Fish showed women who got into a relationship online used the word “relationship” 16 percent more than women who were still single. Why not be honest and speak from that place in your heart?
You’ll find that all of these terms are positively associated with a quality partner’s characteristics. People want to find commonalities with their match.
The lesson here is to put the good things about you at the forefront. Disclosing your interests makes for effortless conversations and paints a clearer picture of the type of person you are. According to a study from Ok Cupid and Match.com, it’s best if some of the interests below are included because it’s what the popular online dating kids do.
For men, some activities they should include are surfing, hiking, and live music.
For women, they should include things like yoga, acting, and fashion.
Most people in a study conducted by the Pew Research Center were drawn to individuals whose profiles were positive but not over-the-top glowing.
People don’t tend to believe it if someone seems too good to be true, so be honest but put your best foot forward. Try something like “NPR, IPA, E3, & U-N-Me.” Going after the career-driven intellectual?
Scientists from Barts, the London School of Medicine, and The University of North Texas say you should look at the online dating profiles and headlines of people you are interested in and mirror some of those same things. Are the objects of your affection all similarly artistic or athletic or academic? Try something like “I hold an MBA, a library card, and high-brow conversation.” In my experience as an online dating coach, many people won’t even see it.
If you look at these terms carefully, you’ll see the theme is they evoke an attractive picture in the mind’s eye of the reader.
Some stereotypes hold true in the online dating sciences, namely men falling in love with what they see and women with what they hear. Paint the portrait of yourself with words that attract the opposite sex.