“Let's clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people," Laurie Helgoe writes in "Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength." "We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”If you're an introvert, you may sometimes enjoy going to parties, but chances are, you're not going because you're excited to meet new people.At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around.
"Extroverts are commonly found to be more easily bored than introverts on monotonous tasks, probably because they require and thrive on high levels of stimulation," Clark University researchers wrote in a paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
"In contrast, introverts are more easily distracted than extroverts and, hence, prefer relatively unstimulating environments." One of the most fundamental characteristics of introverts is that they need time alone to recharge their batteries.
Whereas an extrovert might get bored or antsy spending a day at home alone with tea and a stack of magazines, this sort of down time feels necessary and satisfying to an introvert.
"Spotting the introvert can be harder than finding Waldo," Sophia Dembling, author of "The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World," tells The Huffington Post.
Although the stereotypical introvert may be the one at the party who's hanging out alone by the food table fiddling with an i Phone, the "social butterfly" can just as easily have an introverted personality.
"A lot of introverts can pass as extroverts." People are frequently unaware that they’re introverts -– especially if they’re not shy -- because they may not realize that being an introvert is about more than just cultivating time alone.Instead, it can be more instructive to pay attention to whether they're losing or gaining energy from being around others, even if the company of friends gives them pleasure.“Introversion is a basic temperament, so the social aspect -- which is what people focus on -- is really a small part of being an introvert," Dr.Marti Olsen Laney, psychotherapist and author of "The Introvert Advantage," said in a Mensa discussion."It affects everything in your life.” Despite the growing conversation around introversion, it remains a frequently misunderstood personality trait.As recently as 2010, the American Psychiatric Association even considered classifying "introverted personality" as a disorder by listing it in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-5), a manual used to diagnose mental illness.