She needs to know what your expectations are for those concerns that she has.
i am a young dairyman, 23 and i am dating an awesome girl who is a great fit for me, the problem that we are having is that she is not from an agriculture background, i am a small farmer and plan to stay that way, around 50-60 milking cows.
she is having a few concerns about vacations, family time, financial issues, and lifestyle, we talk about this often and have a strong relationship, just would like some input on how you managed dating and a married life, my parents have been great roll models for me and they have a wonderful marriage.
i love to dairy and love her, just trying to find some help on this issue!
I have never dated a single girl from a dairy or even ag backround and my wife is not from an ag backround (she's from Milwaukee).
It can be tough as so many farmers view their profession as a lifestyle as well.
I found the hardest thing to be having to always explain why I can't just up and go on a trip on a whim or why sometimes I might have to leave functions early or be unable to attend them and have their true understanding of the reasons.I found that women that came from families that owned a business were very understanding, ag isn't quite as special as we like to think. That said, my wife is not from a family that has a business either.I feel communication is the key so that she doesn't continue with a unrealistic expectations of what you are willing/able to do.My wife is from small city, had no ag background at all but does appreciate living on big property in the country now.That said, she has a shiftwork job, makes twice the money I do and now we have a baby. Figure out how much vacation time she really wants, try and schedule it during least busy parts of the year.She needs to realize that you will be working extra hours or at ungodly times in the night in emergencies.