by messages from hopeful (sometimes desperate) men - so much so that the average pretty girl with options doesn't last longer than a few weeks on the site before throwing her hands up in frustration and resignation and abandoning her account. Grizzled POF dating veterans who cut through newbie online dating hopefuls like female paramilitary troopers trained at mercilessly crushing and cannibalizing the unready and unprepared.In this article, I'm going to take you through what I learned in four (4) years of using Plenty of Fish to meet, date, and sleep with tons of new girls, including some of the hottest girls on POF in Southern California.So sit back, relax, and let's get you doing what most of the rest of the online dating crowd Most people when you tell them this think or say, "Yeah, sure, I know my picture's important," and then they put up some mediocre-quality profile picture and get all upset that they aren't getting any dates off the site.
In space, no one can hear you scream, and on POF, no one can feel your sexiness. Ok Cupid's famous profile photo blog post, in which the dating site examined a large cache of user picture and messaging information, revealed the following about men's profile pictures: Clearly, non-smiling, eye-contact-away pictures are the best pictures you can use. and not so much like these: My all-time best performing profile picture catches me just as I'm pulling on a suit jacket, looking down and away a bit, not too dissimilar to the guy in the image on the top right.
Why do women prefer their men looking off and to the side? And just in case you're curious, for men, the trend is reversed - women making eye contact and flirty faces get significantly higher response from us fellas than women averting their gazes do.
Well, I can tell you this: in real life, women will only check you out (usually) when they think you're not looking and won't notice. I guess we men just like to know our girl is interested in us before we spend much time on her.
When you're staring at them, they tend to quickly avert their gazes, not wanting to be seen looking. In addition to not smiling and looking away (no eye contact), there are five (5) other things you can do to spice up the pictures you'll use on Plenty of Fish: boring or low quality-looking (like the other three pictures are).
She avoids "profile blindness" by having a picture that stands out from the pack.
She's also making that flirty face that men respond best to.
You want pictures that pop as much as 'someone hacked my other account's does (minus the flirty face) to be your profile pictures - and, ideally, to be all the rest of your pictures, too. this is just a damn good picture of you, and there just happens to be a part of a girl spilling over it into it, and you've tried to remove her as much as possible (that's the impression, anyway).
A few tips: That's one profile picture, and two additional pictures. I have experimented with ALL SORT of combinations - including some with tons and tons of pictures - and this one has worked best most consistently.
I suggest two "profile-like" pictures, and only one interesting picture. The only one that's beaten it has been when I've set up test profiles with a sole profile picture of one very physically attractive male model, and no other pictures. the lesson being, if you are - one that nearly every woman will look at and go, "Whoa." Philosophy behind pictures: if it adds to your profile picture in a good way, include it.